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Reflections on My Big Sis Kathy To all of you attending, thank you for your support and prayers for my family during this difficult time. As you all know, on October 28th we lost my dear sister, Kathy. That day, my life and the lives of my family members changed forever. So, today we gather in light and love to remember and to share in our memories of my wonderful sister, Kathy Good. Anyone who is lucky enough to have a sibling can understand what it means to share the bond of love, friendship and family history. Time and space cannot destroy that bond and Kathy and I had it. When we were growing up Kathy was always looking after me, whether it was chasing the bully with her umbrella to protect her little sister, or helping me tie my shoes. In elementary school, we always had lunch together. In fact, we were always together. Growing up, we shared a room, so that made us even closer. We loved playing dolls, making up plays to entertain the family, taking swimming lessons, listening to music, going to the latest movies and watching our favorite shows on television, or a million other things that sisters do. Kathy wasn’t just my sister, she was my closest and dearest friend. As we got older, our closeness continued. On weekdays, I always knew when it was 7:30 in the morning, because our daily multiple calls began. Just to say hi, hear the news of what was happening with the family or with friends, or give support or advice to each other. Every morning I find myself looking at the clock and thinking that call is coming, but it doesn’t . Boy, will I miss those calls. When we were younger, two older ladies were family friends. Ana who was older had been married and Ida who was younger was a spinster. Both of them had that strange blue hair. They lived near each other and we always said we would end up like Ana and Ida, but no blue hair for us, because we would dye it! At the rate I was going, I would surely have been Ida, the spinster, but then when I finally was at peace with the fact that I would not meet someone to marry, my sister came to my rescue, as she had so many times and introduced me to my wonderful husband, David. Every November 27th, we celebrate the day we met as Kathy Good Day. Like a circle in a circle, Kathy was the heart and hub of the Good Family. Kathy created the Good Family traditions for all of the holidays and special occasions. Kathy’s eye for detail and beauty made every get together wonderful and memorable. Our traditions are the thread that will always bind our family to one another. You may not know that Kathy was an early education teacher for many years before she opened her business. When she left the field of education to open her business, it’s no surprise she chose the name Good Advice, because that is exactly what she provided to everyone. In her work or personal relationships, Kathy always knew just what to say to guide and comfort people. If you ever needed to know about some daily chore or how to solve a problem, Kathy had the answer. Kathy was a dear and wonderful soul. She had a kind and generous spirit and a heart that embraced everyone that she met. I’m sure each of you here has your own special memory of how you have been touched by Kathy. Something Kathy did for you. Always taking the time to listen to you, to find the perfect gift, or some small thing that made a difference for you. How do I distill a life into a few minutes when I have so many thoughts and memories whirling in my head. Kathy’s legacy is the love she had for her family and friends. She was so proud of her family and their accomplishments. She cherished her marriage of 46 years to Jim and the life that they created together. Kathy is with us today and will be with us always. Her spirit is eternal and the memories and love she gave us will keep her alive. So, to my dear sister, Kathy, I say what will I do now? I will remember: The love you always gave me. How you made me feel special. The beauty you created. Always being there for me. Giving me a great brother, Jim. Sharing Jennifer and Jeff with me, because I didn’t have my own kids. Sharing my life with the great husband you found for me. I would like to end by reading you something our dear friend Dee Hitchcock shared with me. God saw you getting tired, And a cure was not to be, So He put His arms around you, And whispered, “Come to Me.” With tearful eyes we watched you suffer, And saw you fall away. Although we couldn’t bear to lose you, We could not ask you to stay. A golden heart stopped beating, Hardworking hands laid to rest. God broke our hearts to prove to us, That He only takes the best. Thank you for joining us today and thank you for loving my sister, Kathy.
This is what I said about my mom at her Memorial Service. From your Daughter... I know that everyone thinks that their mother is the BEST mother, but my mom really was. And not just to me and Jeff. There are countless people in this room that called her Mom or Mama Good. All my friends growing up never called her Mrs. Good or Kathy, they all called her Mom. My mom made every person who came into contact with her feel special. She made it a point to address you by name when she first met you and then she’d never forget your name. Mom knew all of your birthdays, anniversaries, favorite colors, EVERYTHING. She sent birthday cards, Christmas cards, gifts to I think everyone in this room because that’s what she did. She made all of us feel important and special, that’s what made her so amazing. But it was also the reason Jeff and I would always HATE going places in Westchester with her because as my brother mentioned, a “simple” trip to Little Vons would somehow turn into an hour. She would stop to talk to someone in every aisle. We called her “Chatty Kathy.” I remember years later when handing over my own credit card to pay at those same stores the cashier would always say to me….”Are you Kathy Good’s daughter?” I would cringe. It was actually a relief when I got married and changed my name. But the truth is, i couldn’t feel more blessed and proud than to be Kathy Good’s daughter. Not only was she the BEST mother, she was the world’s greatest Grams to Nick and Mady. If anyone was born to be a grandparent, it was Mom. She was their first babysitter. We had an agreement that if they hit any “big” milestones while they were on her watch, she wasn’t allowed to tell me. To this day, I have no idea if they said first words or took first steps with her or with me. She wanted to know updates of all doctor appointments and all school activities. I just recently discovered that she signed up to get the weekly school newsletters from their school so she would know what was going on. She loved my babies and boy did they love her. They are just as heartbroken as the rest of us. They want their Grams just like I want my Mom. 68 years, 13 days was not enough time. This, all of this, was not supposed to happen. But in my heart, I know that there is a bigger plan for you Mama. We may not understand it just yet, but I know it's there waiting to be revealed. My last day with her will forever be burned in my memory. I got to spend about 3 hours with just her in the hospital. I brushed her hair. We watched HGTV together. I held her hand. Talked to her about Nick & Mady. I asked her if she was scared, she nodded yes and I told her not to be because she was so strong and had so many people were praying for her. We talked about going to Hawaii together as a family. She was SUPER frustrated because “Chatty Kathy” couldn’t talk and I am terrible at reading lips. When I left her I kissed her, told her I loved her and that she was the best mommy ever and told her those words that she told me all the time and I tell Nick and Mady all the time, “To the Moon and Back.” I want to thank each and every one of you for loving us and my mother.. So many of you have emailed, texted, or called me to tell me something about mom. And I become overwhelmed each time because you all LOVE her and I know she loved you. And so many of you have told me that you love me and my family and you feel like you know us because she would brag about us all the time.
I first met Kathy when she came to my Beauty Salon in Manhattan Beach in 1980. We had an instant connection and became friends right away. She cared about taking care of herself and so for the next 36 years I saw Kathy every 6 weeks to make her more beautiful. We had wonderful conversations and shared what was going on in our lives. It was so easy for us because we understood each other in such a loving and accepting way. For the rest of my life I will always think of her as being so kind, loyal, generous, giving, loving, responsible and ever so dependable. I will miss my sweet friend who was like a sister to me. She was the hub of her and family and I know they have suffered a tremendous loss. My thoughts and prayers and condolences are with this incredible family.
I wish to express my heartfelt condolences to Jim & the Good family on Kathy’s passing. I have had the opportunity to meet Kathy & Jim on several occasions through mutual friends Craig & Bart. I have been exposed to their heart felt generosity & hospitality. On the last occasion we spent together I sensed something special and generosity of spirit came to mind. I recollect feeling all the better for being introduced to the Good family. These thoughts are present today as I reflect on my friendship with Kathy Good.
I first met Kathy 25 yrs ago when we worked together on major project on our home In Playa del Rey. We "clicked" immediately & subsequently worked together on several other properties including a dream house on Kauai. Kathy is a wonderful example of a professional woman who does it all. I learned more from her than anyone ever in the construction design lighting and plumbing business.I am saddened to hear of her passing but know where she is she will make it a beautiful place RIP Dear Girl, I'll never forget your Good Advice xoxo
When we think of FAVORITE cousins, Kathy Good is a major player. Thoughout her life she was devoted to family, friends, creative work, and enjoying a sweet love of life. We loved her thoughts, her laugh, and her devotion to all things good and great. We sincerely miss Kathy and everything that was important to her. Much love to Kathy Good ! //
We have been friends of Liz and David for a long time and I never imagined that after hearing such delightful stories about her sister for so long we would meet her in this way. We feel the loss, and also the strength of your family through this time. We send special thoughts of love to all of you at this time.
It was a sunny morning that I first saw you from my living room window at 8027 Yorktown Avenue. You were holding 8mo. Jennifer as you and Jim walked up the driveway to view the home (#8021) that was due to come on the market later that day. We lived side-by-side for the next 21 yrs. Kathy taught me the "art of gardening" taught to her by her grandfather. She became the younger sister I never had and our doors were always open to each other. Even our dogs (her Checkers and our Dundee) were the best of friends. Xmas was Kathy at her best with the glory of her artistic talent in tree decoration and homemade holiday goodies. Bernie and I relocated to Pennsylvania in 1997. Through holiday and birthday card exchanges, we kept our connection. Even making time for a Kathy and Betty lunch date. Although a long way geographically, our hearts were always in tight connection.
Kathy was so talented and helped us with so many things in our home. She not only improved the looks of our home, but she a became a good friend and wonderful P.E.O. sister. We share your sadness,. We will always remember her enthusiasm and spirit.
I did not have the pleasure of knowing Kathy but I know her daughter, Jenn. Through Jenn I know that her mom must have been a fabulous, warm, loving person - because that is the kind of person that nurtures and encourages wonderful children who grow into wonderful adults. Rest in Peace.
To know Kathy is to LOVE her because she was LOVE I could fill a book with all she has taught me about being a good mother, friend, wife and all around great person. I met Kathy through her love of textiles and making houses into beautiful homes (as only she could do)! I can tell you we were instant friends. I will never forget all the times we set around her kitchen table with a cup of coffee talking about life and family, or after Jenn had children watching her be an amazing grandma to Nick and Mady. Kathy you among the Angels and I know I will see you again. Thank you for showing me what a true friend is I Love You and you will always have a special place in my heart You will be sorely missed, but Never forgotten I will remember the laughter and love we shared Thanks for being such an truly Amazing friend.
Kathy and I go back to preschool at Covenant Presbyterian Church, where we both taught and looked after each other's kids on the days we weren't teaching. We have remained friends ever since. I will miss you so much dear friend. Thank you for being a special part of my life, someone I could always laugh and cry with. I love you.
The term Mother has several definitions and conditions, yet the one common theme is Love. Kathy was Love. She was my mother. I was blessed with two great sets of parents on Yorktown Ave, and they helped mold me into who I am today. It sounds cliche, but it is true, Kathy was always there for us. I can remember running across the street to get my teeth pulled while sitting at her kitchen table. She would have the paper towel ready, an ice cube wrapped in another paper towel, and of course a popsicle on standby once the deed was done. It was that or facing my dad with the proverbial pliers to do the job. She encouraged an environment of creativity and imagination. The many times the living room couch was transformed into an airplane, and Jeff, Jenn, and I played the crew, or our secret drive through window in the old house. The backyard was all too often a campground and yes, I played the Park Ranger. Jeff and I playing home run derby over the new house with nerf balls, and Kathy yelling every time the ball didn't quite clear the house, or Jim not too happy with our landing zones from the best swing set on the block. Of course, we cannot forget the best hill on the block for slip and slide, which was also known for taking some teeth if I remember right. But behind it all, was the matriarch of 8021 Yorktown Ave. She was the glue who held things together, and oh did she hold things together. Kathy, mom, you will be missed, but know everyone you have touched with your heart is carrying your love with them. It is impossible not to. Love you.